In defense of Steps

Figures, vocabulary, sequences, and anything else labeled as steps get a bad reputation in the social tango world. Steps rank last on most dancers’ list of what makes a good tanguero, if they make the list at all. The phrase “they just did a bunch of steps” is a common way to express displeasure for a performance, and it is even a mark of pride amongst some leaders of how few steps they do. The advice often given is it is better to do a few steps than do a lot of steps poorly. “Better to remain silent and thought a fool than to lead a bad boleo and to remove all doubt.” Or, as stated in Proverbs 17:28, “even a fool, when he holdeth his ganchos, is counted wise: and he that sustaineth his pauses is esteemed a man of understanding.”

We have all seen that dancer who tries as many figures as possible, irrespective of quality, connection, or music. None of us want to be that person, or dance with that person. We see these dancers and think they care too much about the steps. We believe they should focus less on the steps to be able to pay attention to more important parts of the dance, such as the music and connection. I want to argue a different position. I care a lot about the steps I do, and by the end of this essay I hope that you do too. My thesis is that the problem is not dancers caring too much about their steps, but the problem actually is that dancers care too little about the steps they do. Steps are not simply sequences to half-learn in class, try at the milonga, and forget a week later. They are conduits for understanding ourselves, for sharing with the world, and for connecting with our history and the rich history of dance. Every step can reveal truths about ourselves.

Remembering a sequence is not the end, but the beginning of the journey. Dive deeper. Analyze more. Discover the reason behind each loss of balance, each moment of discomfort, and the cause of each mistake; then change yourself so that will always work. Visualize each movement in detail, and identify any part where your mental image is murky. This highlights the questions to ask and the areas to work on to complete your picture. Work with other dancers to get their insights and methods for doing the same steps. Understand the step inside and out so that it becomes a tool you can always use. This process can be slow, and you may come back to the same step many times year after year to discover new truths. The process of analysis and discovery is how we show our care for the steps we do. The person who mindlessly leads half-baked step after half-baked step is doing it because they haven’t put enough care into understanding the steps they do.

We each have a mental framework of how the dance works, but some frameworks are better than others. Limited mental frameworks hold us back far more than any limitations in ability or physicality. Steps are a way to expand our understanding of what is possible. Like how logicians use counterexamples to prove a theory false, steps that don’t fit within our understanding act as counterexamples to our limited frameworks. The best teachers give us steps that fail when our understanding of the dance is incorrect but will unlock easily once we have the correct framework.   

Steps are the vocabulary for expressing ourselves. Having a full vocabulary allows for full expression, and a fuller vocabulary allows us to see and think things we otherwise would not have. Different steps can capture different parts of the music, and knowing more steps helps us better hear the music. Different steps bring out different emotions, and knowing more steps help us connect to our own emotions and those of our partner. Throwing around steps without care is like throwing words around without knowing their meaning. We may judge someone for using words incorrectly, but it is not the fault of the words. The solution is not to use a smaller vocabulary, but to gain the understanding of what the words mean and use them appropriately.

Each step has a story. There are several steps that I have created myself—likely I was not the first to discover them, but I discovered them without being shown by someone else. I remember each time I first dreamt the idea up (sometimes literally as I often visualize movements before going to bed). I remember the details I changed and the pieces I polished to shape them how I want. I take pride in the steps I have discovered, and I take care in their continued growth and development. I find joy sharing these ideas when I dance, and in feeling the interpretation and additions of my partner.

Each step has a history. I remember the steps shared with me, and the people who showed me. I remember the place and the feelings and the energy. This history comes with me whenever I dance. I honor where I come from and those who have taught me by caring for their steps. For remembering, implementing, and adapting their ideas. Recently a teacher was showing me a movement and she said, “This is a very old step that I absolutely love.” It is a tiny movement, but a movement passed on from dancer to dancer, until she passed it along to me. This tiny movement allows me to connect into a whole lineage and bring their spirits with me wherever I dance. Each step allows me to be a part of tango, its past present and future. This is why I care about the steps I do.  

The Inner World of Tango: Finding your flow

Indeed, one of the highest pleasures is to be more or less unconscious of one’s own existence, to be absorbed in interesting sights, sounds, places, and people. Conversely, one of the greatest pains is to be self-conscious, to feel unabsorbed and cut off from the community and the surrounding world.

Alan Watts, The Wisdom of Insecurity

Tango is a gateway to a state of consciousness where mind and body are fully engrossed in the present moment. It is a world filled with senses—the sounds of the music, the sight of our partner and the ronda, the smell of perfume, the inner senses of balance, acceleration, and stretch. It is a world filled with feelings—the pressure of our feet on the floor, our partner’s hand on our back, the warmth of connection, the texture of their movements. We feel curiosity, suspense, excitement, pride, nostalgia, safety, gratitude, joy, happiness, love. Our mind is fully active, but we are resensitized to the world so that our thoughts are saturated by the experiences of the moment leaving no room for regrets about the past or concerns about the future. This world of flow, once discovered, brings tango dancers back night after night in search of the opportunity to reenter. For many, access to this inner world of tango is THE point of the dance and the meaning behind the movements.

The journey to the inner world of tango can be a frustrating one. The trail is difficult to find and there are many ways to lose the path. And when we do arrive, we can be taken away at any moment. We can’t think our way there because those thoughts take up the space in our mind that is needed to fully experience the moment. I can’t tell you how to find your inner world of tango, but I can offer a guide to help you find the path, and help you reorient when you lose the trail. I can offer some reminders that can act as a catalyst to reconnect to sensations and allow them to engulf our thoughts.    

Comfort, excitement, and safety are the keys to the inner world of tango while pain, boredom, distraction, and fear bar entry. You begin preparing for your journey to the inner world of tango well before getting on the dance floor. Your state of being before the dance will affect how you show up in the dance. Did you get enough sleep? Are you fed and hydrated? Have you warmed your body up and taken care of any aches or pains that may distract you from the present moment? You make choices that allow the experience to occur. What milonga are we going to? What tanda are you dancing to? Who are we dancing in front of and behind? Who will be your companion on this journey?

When I was young in tango, I thought that everyone should dance with everyone, and that people were just being “snobs” and being too selective. This was because I still thought of the dance in terms of its steps and movements. Later I realized that the journey to the inner world of tango requires comfort and safety in your partner. We can practice with and experience joy dancing with a wide range of people, but the truth is that there is a much smaller group with whom we are able to travel deeper. Each dancer finds their own path to the inner world. I will share mine in case it is of help. I begin by putting my focus on my partner’s spine. The thread of connection to our partner’s center is fragile but

powerful. It contains information about their positioning and preparedness, their breath and heartbeat, their thoughts, and their feelings. Fully committing to the extrospection of my partner’s state of being can be enough to bring me into the inner world.

We need our eyes open for balance, to navigate, and to better read our partner.[*] But the milonga is filled with distractions for the eye. The sparkly clothes shoes of someone, the elegant movements of another, our friend who just walked in, the person taking photos of the dance floor.[†] I use what the great magician Juan Tamariz describes as the pianist’s inward gaze.

The pianist’s gaze is the gaze of someone who is concentrated on his own action, and on the instrument. This is the inward gaze…If it is intense, honest and strong, it may be very attractive too. It is as if we opened a door into ourselves and invited the spectator to come in.

Juan Tamariz, The Five Points in Magic

Use your eyes for the information you need without allowing the extraneous sights to distract you on your journey.

I bring my attention to the contact of my feet with the floor. To the contact of the embrace. To the feelings of my hand in theirs, their hand in mine, my hand on their back and their hand on my back, and the connection and intention of our bodies. I breathe life into these connection points, feeling the air flow into my feet, hands, arms, and chest. I allow the breath to bring with it the sensation of the present moment. I allow thoughts to calmly come and go without judgement, trusting that wherever I am in the moment is where I should be.

We seldom stay in our inner world for long. There are plenty of moments of distraction, boredom, fear, and pain to bring us back to earth. I am constantly entering and exiting my inner world. I often recheck where my focus is, remind myself of the inward gaze, reconnect with my feet and with the connection, and reconnect to my breath. I sometimes find myself focusing too much on these guides, which itself pulls me away from the inner world. I then feel the flash of self-judgement for thinking too much about ways to not think so much. This process is natural. It is a blessing that our internal thoughts are as complex as they are. I slowly find my way back. I ask you to come join me in this inner world of tango, if even for just a moment.


This article was greatly enhanced by the experiences and thoughts shared by Jacqueline Pham, Gabriel Gaumond, and David Zuckerman. Thank you all for your wisdom.

[*] I believe that it is best for both leaders and followers to keep their eyes open but maintain the inward gaze towards their partner.

[†] Still the biggest distraction I have experienced was the one case where a person decided to film me for the entire tanda. Needless to say, I was well removed from the inner world of tango for that tanda.